Think for a minute about yourself and who you are. How do you see yourself? How do you hope others see you? How do you want to be perceived? How do you think you are perceived? Do your answers match? This isn’t a test. This is to get you to think about who you are and if you value yourself. Do you believe that you are important? Do you think a lot about your reputation as others see it to be? Or do you choose to ignore what others think about you?
I’ve been thinking a lot about females and how young girls today seem to put so much effort into making sure they are living up to their reputation that was given to them by their peers. They put so much time and effort into looking a certain way, acting a certain way, and being a certain way, to the point where I wonder if this is all just a facade to cover up who they really are; the person they are afraid of showing to their peers.
The question becomes, are young girls today being influenced by what they watch on TV? Are they able to comprehend the difference between a television show and reality? Or are they aware of the differences but want their life to be like the worlds they view young girls on TV to have? Perhaps it’s a combination of the two. Take the series Gossip Girl as an example. The show outlines the lives of high schoolers going through typical teenage problems but with added drama as well as them being from the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Throughout the series we are taken into a world of glamour and are shown how much everyone wants to be accepted and live up to their reputation. We learn that some cannot handle the pressure of who they are labeled as, some want to become part of the glamorous world, and some have to live up to their reputation while figuring out if that is who they want to be known as.
As I think about the different characters in Gossip Girl and what the character’s reputations are and who they are from the beginning to the end, I think about how a young girl today could easily watch that show and want to become some of the characters. Girls are vulnerable and during a time as high school where they are beginning to figure out who they are and what “group” they want to belong to, they could watch a show as Gossip Girl and instantly be drawn into that world as either a way to escape reality, be entertained, or because they can relate to a character and want to make their own life like the one’s portrayed on the screen.
When we see the actions girls make, the decisions they choose, are they doing it because they want to? Because that’s what their friends want them to do? Or are they thinking “That’s what she would do”?. It’s different for every young girl and I am not judging anyone, I am merely trying to understand how girls these days are thinking and whether they feel they have to own a reputation they don’t actually want. What’s important is that every girl respects herself, values herself, and sees herself as a powerful young woman. Just remember “Don’t get confused between what people say you are and who you know you are.” ~Oprah.